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How To Identify Selfish Leaders

Posted by | May 12, 2015 | Leadership, Workplace

Via LinkedIn : There are many types of leaders in the world. Leaders who are selfish and driven by ambition do not belong in leadership at all. These type of leaders portray someone they are not to get the things that they need and want from people. In a nutshell, selfish leaders fake who they are. They can be well mannered and likeable leaders because they are good at manipulating people. However, “You can fool some of the people all the time, and all of the people some of the time, but you cannot fool all of the people all the time.” Abraham Lincoln

Since selfish leaders excel at manipulating people, it may be a bit hard to identify them, though it is not impossible. Sooner or later, these type of leaders are exposed to who they truly are. You must pay close attention to identify selfish leaders because they exist everywhere, in politics, business, education, entertainment and in every part of society.

Here’s a guide to help you identify selfish leaders

They do not care about relationships: Selfish leaders put themselves first and are only concerned in self-advancement by using what you know and what you possess. They are rarely interested in building a relationship with you.

They promise and do not deliver: Selfish leaders speak eloquently to make you feel important and also tell you how they can help you out. They use this deceptive tactic to get you to help them and trust them, not the other way around.

They do not share: Selfish leaders are not generous with their knowledge, time, support and resources in general. They idolize their material possessions and always think about how to get more things for them, not for you.

They act cowardly: Selfish leaders lack the courage to face and rectify the negative consequences of their actions. They know when they do something wrong to you and opt to distance from you.

They do not ask for forgiveness: Selfish leaders are arrogant and give little or no importance to how you feel as a result of how they hurt you. They resort to lies and think you are inferior to even consider apologizing to you.

They go around the bush: Selfish leaders do not give you straight answers when they are questioned about something. They usually alter the information they share with you or keep changing the subject.

They do not commit to anything: Selfish leaders always think in terms of “What is it in for me?” and how they can benefit from you. They have minimal intentions in doing anything for you without having ulterior motives.

In conclusion, words and actions matter. When leaders’ words are not aligned with their actions, you must be careful. Remember to practice observation. The truth always comes to light and selfish leaders fall in their own game for they cannot keep good memory about what they say and what they do. This is good advice to follow: “Actions speak louder than words, but not nearly as often.” Mark Twain

How have you dealt with a selfish leader in the past?, Have you been hurt by a selfish leader?. Please share in the comments section below.

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