How to Establish a Good Relationship With Your Co-Workers & Your Boss
Via LinkedIn : Did you change your employer or are you starting on new job? This is the right moment. We’ve all been through these situations and always should recall the importance of creating good first impressions. It is the impact of first impressions.
In categorizing people, we all take shortcuts, and first impressions about people often turn into long-term perceptions and reputations — which are good for people who make positive first impressions (the halo effect), but bad for people who make negative first impressions.
Certainly is the early days are when your boss and colleagues form the most lasting impressions about you. This is when they make assessments about your ‘typical’ behavior — the ‘type’ of person you are. If you have any attendance/punctuality issues in the first few days or weeks, you’ve already lost a significant battle — their confidence in you. People use to take you as seriously as you seem to take yourself — and your work.
And in the workplace, during those first few early days where you are meeting everyone — and everyone is meeting you — first impressions about you and your future potential can make a major impact on your future success with the organization.
“You have to realize that first impressions are remembered. Watch what you say and do. Things can come back to haunt you.”
Keep in mind that he first days at a new job is critical for making the right impression. After all, no office needs another toxic co-worker: the know-it-all, the gossip hound, or the death breath guy. Instead, you want to ooze dependability, preparedness, politeness, good grooming and above all, normality. AND there is an important rule to apply, have a good start with your new boss.
Here are some recommended ways to make sure you and your present-day boss start off on the right foot:
- Know your job and have a good track record of performance. This is THE most important way to impress your new boss – just be really good at what you do. Good leaders have a knack for sizing their new teams up within the first few weeks. They will ask around. If you’re good at what you do, they’ll pick up on it, and if you’re not, not much else will matter.
- Learn about your new manager. Do a Google search; look up their LinkedIn profile. Find out about leadership style, or philosophy. Ask questions about interests, hobbies, family, etc… Show an interest in getting to know him/her, and offer information in return. Being vulnerable is the first step to building trust and a relationship. Play it by ear, don’t offer too much too early (TMI), but be prepared to reciprocate.
- Be VERY open to change. Listen. Don’t listen to evaluate, listen for possibilities. Chances are there’s a reason a new manager was brought it, don’t come across as part of the problem. And maybe you are, but show a willingness and ability to adapt and change.Behaviors that are appreciated by most new managers: enthusiasm, optimism, curiosity, initiative, and good judgment. Behaviors that are frowned upon by a new manager: cynicism, whining, finger pointing, skepticism, and acting like a know-it-all.
- Help your new manager learn. Be proactive, anticipate what they need to know and provide it at the appropriate time.
- Clarifying expectations are critical. Find out what your new manager expects from you, and employees in general. Be prepared to talk about what you expect from your manager, in case you’re asked. But only if asked. If you’re not asked, that’s usually not a good sign.
- Watch your manager’s back. Assume you already have a positive and stable working relationship, and act that way. Assume anything you say about your new boss will get back to them or end up on the company intranet front page the next day. Be an ally.
- However…. don’t be a blatant suck-up. What’s the difference? A good leader usually knows the difference between sucking up and basic courtesy and competence.
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